A wise reader, with a house full of young children, shares some very good advice:
Don’t have unrealistic expectations. With a bunch of young kids, Erev Shabbos will not be a quiet afternoon when you can read, nap and say tehillim all day. There will be fights, spills, clothing that needs to be wiped/changed…but that’s normal. Instead of trying to reach some elusive dream of what you wish Friday afternoon would look like, instead try to reach the point where Erev Shabbos isn’t more crazy than any other day of the week.