Shiur about Chatzos on Bnos Melachim

I recently spoke about Chatzos for Bnos Melachim. To hear the recording of the shiur I gave, call 718-906-6451. Press option 4 for the Shabbos and Yom Tov section, then press 3 for Shabbs Programs, and then press 3# to hear my shiur.

Here’s the ‘blurb’ from their program:

It’s Erev Shabbos. Let us make it a “Gutten” Erev Shabbos. Will we enter Shabbos harried and stressed or amid peace and joyous anticipation?
Join thousands of women like you in a worldwide initiative as a kabbalah for the new year to welcome Shabbos with joy and serenity by being ready for Shabbos earlier. Approach hadlakos neiros in a relaxed, focused state of mind and make the most of that special time to daven for yourself, your loved ones, for Klal Yisroel – and let the flow of bracha that Shabbos brings saturate your home and your life. What an awesome source of unlimited merit!

Let us tap into the wondrous power of Tosfos Shabbos – each of us in our very own way. Whether it’s lighting a few minutes earlier, or being ready for Shabbos earlier. Find the change that will ultimately transform your family’s erev Shabbos experience into a time of connection and truly joyous anticipation.

You can also call in every week to hear the name of someone in Klal Yisroel in need of rachmei Shomayim for whom to be mispallel at this special time.
This program will also feature weekly hilchos Shabbos Q & A and divrei Torah on the parshah to keep you inspired.


I hope you enjoy the shiur! Listen to it while you are preparing for shabbos in the kitchen this week!

Making Chatzos with little kids?!

A wise reader, with a house full of young children, shares some very good advice:

Don’t have unrealistic expectations. With a bunch of young kids, Erev Shabbos will not be a quiet afternoon when you can read, nap and say tehillim all day. There will be fights, spills, clothing that needs to be wiped/changed…but that’s normal. Instead of trying to reach some elusive dream of what you wish Friday afternoon would look like, instead try to reach the point where Erev Shabbos isn’t more crazy than any other day of the week.

Do you KNOW how to do Chatzos?

A member, Rochel from Yerushalayim, sent in this amazing post:

Recently my sister had a local event where everyone was asked to bring a few tips about making Shabbos preps easier. She’s already heard many ideas I’ve gleaned from the Chatzos group and wanted to know what I thought was the best point. Sort of summarize the entire concept of Chatzos on one foot.

Well, there’s no magic involved, I told her. Continue reading

Personality Types and Chatzos

Posted by our dear member, Mikki:

Hi dear Chatzos sisters!!

Here we are BH Thursday evening (in my time zone) and I’m sitting down to read some Chatzos emails for motivation to keep going.

I came across the email about personality traits. And I laughed. Thinking back to my mother (type a) calling me a type z (not b or c…..the furthest letter from a)
And then I read the thread…. And saw what Azriela wrote:

I remember a dear member who has been here a long while joining chatzos and calling herself “type Z” , and the farthest from organized for shabbos that one could be. She joined chatzos because she knew that she needed the discpline of it to help her get a better handle on shabbos planning. Continue reading

Its a new year, now what?

Here’s the danger. We beg Hashem for forgiveness and make all kinds of commitments over the yomim to vim.  And then, a week past, it’s already a faded memory, and it’s hard to feel the same fervor and commitment.

It’s like how easy it is to say on Sunday that we’ll start that diet on Monday. Then Nonday rolls around, and doing without chocolate is soooo much harder than we thought it would be, and by Tuesday we’re already thinking, okay, maybe next Monday. (I speak from experience, maybe none of you have any problem giving up chocolate!)

So here’s a thought for you to digest. One of the many reasons I love chatzos. Once chatzos routine is in place, and a commitment to do it is there, it doesn’t require willpower anymore. Really, it doesn’t. I don’t ever think in a given week, will I have the will to do chatzos this week? I took that decision away from myself years ago.

So as the new year begins and I am very aware of my faults and shortcomings, and I can take out the whip on myself for any number of reasons, it gives me comfort to know that I have chatzos on automatic. No matter what, I know that this, I’m going to do right. E

very week we get the chance to make that happen, and you really have to trust me and the hundreds of others in this group who have experienced this Chatzos is LESS WORK and LESS STRESSFUL than without it.So how’s that for a win/win?  Join me. It’s awesome.


Clearing up Friday for family time

Shaina S. shares her success story:

This Friday was my husbands only opportunity to do something with the kids for Chol HaMoed and I desperately wanted things to work out for us. So Thursday morning we had a family meeting (the children and I) and agreed that I would do all the cooking and the kids would do all the seder and clean-up in the house so Friday everything would be done and we could go out. It took a bit of pushing and reminding but by night time everything was made except the matza balls, a cake, and a pot of boiled potatoes. The house was clean and organized and we were all very tired!! The best part was Friday afternoon after spending an enjoyable morning together, the older children said that it was so much fun to bring in Shabbat calmly instead of the way we always do!!! That made me so happy I felt like I was lighting candles up in the clouds!