A wise reader, with a house full of young children, shares some very good advice:
Don’t have unrealistic expectations. With a bunch of young kids, Erev Shabbos will not be a quiet afternoon when you can read, nap and say tehillim all day. There will be fights, spills, clothing that needs to be wiped/changed…but that’s normal. Instead of trying to reach some elusive dream of what you wish Friday afternoon would look like, instead try to reach the point where Erev Shabbos isn’t more crazy than any other day of the week.
Dear Chatzos sisters,
I just wanted to share with you that this erev shabbos went BH very smoothly.
Around 3:30 (note 2 hours before candle lighting) my daughter asked me to blow dry her hair. Something we often do not have time for.
I happily was able to do it for her and it is a very nice mother daughter memory we can reminiscent on iy’H when she makes shabbos Chatzos style in her own home.
As we finished up my daughter notice that I was all ready in my shabbos clothing.
She said to me:
Wow mom this is so Chatzos!
Everything is ready and only one person needs to shower.
It was so cute to hear this young lady (very young, iy’h turning 9 on monday) connecting the serenity in the house with Chatzos.
Thought you’d like it too!
Gut voch and gut chodesh!
Tomorrow we get active in our purim preparations!
Hamentashen and costumes….which will make more of a mess?
Let me share a few more 🙂
mi shenichnas Adar marbim b’simcha!
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A woman called me from Baltimore who isn’t on our email group to share her hakoras hatov. She heard about chatzos from her relative, who also isn’t in the group, but that woman heard me speak years ago on a phone shiur and she has spread chatzos throughout her extended family. This woman shared something so beautiful with me, I had to share it with you. This is what they do:
“After chatzos, when the kids come home from school, I bought fun weekday activities that they can’t do on shabbos, like coloring, listening to special music, special treats, and we have a whole activity time, we call our chatzos time. I pick one kid each week who gets to go shopping with me each week for these activities, and they pick out their chatzos treat and whatever the activities will be. My kids are 7, 6, 4, and 2 and a baby. This is the highlight of our week. Sometimes I take a nap while my husband does the chatzos activities with them. It’s a pleasant time we all look forward to. My youngest ones will go down for a nap and ask me, “when I wake up, is it chatzos time yet?”
Mothers with young children, try it, sounds beautiful to me.